We’ve been married for 16 years. We’ve both gotten a bit rounder than we used to be, but what isn’t hotter has grown warmer. I have to admit I never really understood how growing older would be when I was younger. Let me see if I can explain what I mean.
When I see my wife now, it’s like looking at a person in a time warp. She has a certain smile that takes me back to a memory of our honeymoon. There is a mischievous grin that puts me inside a moment when we were still dating. She has these little hairs that curl right below her ear that make me think of the first morning I woke up with her next to me.
There are so many layers now; such a deep, wonderful complexity about how she makes me feel when I see her. She’s like a succulent dish that has been prepared by a master chef. Or a rich, velvety wine with that perfect blend of buttery smoothness and dry finish. She is my heart, my love, truly my better half. She helps me to be the kind of man and father I’ve always wanted to be.
Am I attracted to her? Oh, god, yes. No matter how we look now, I see her across all the years as a kind of gestalt vision of who she is and what she means to me. She is the most interesting and attractive person I’ve ever had in my life. No one else even comes a close second.
I took a 7 week coast to coast road trip after being laid off from Boeing. I didn’t have a camper but realized that being able to pull off the road at a rest or truck stop was the way to go to make the trip affordable. With a few sheets of 1/2” plywood and misc. hardware this is what I came up with. The effort was well worth the time and materials.
I’m going to say ONE thing about the Ray Rice situation.
In a society obsessed with gender neutrality, there’s some irony in this entire event. Across the country, people are fighting for “gender neutrality,” claiming that there are no significant differences between the male and female genders and therefore we should all be treated the same.
However when Ray Rice hit his then-fiancé, the nation was in uproar. I’m proud that in that moment people instinctively reacted in such a way! A man should never lay hands on a woman, and the response that the situation received was out of a pureness of heart.
But then, isn’t it ironic that in many states, a man can walk into the women’s restroom 100% legally if he identifies as a woman that day, and a woman can use the men’s restroom if she is feeling particularly masculine with no reproach, however when a man hits a woman we still see it as morally wrong?
Had Ray Rice hit another man for what he thought was a good reason, his fans probably would have supported him. Had the WOMAN hit a man, she probably would’ve gotten some sort of praise for standing up for herself or being confident and powerful. But we as humans innately know that there ARE differences between man and woman and a man should never put a woman in harms way.
Just my speculations. Just some irony.
Yes, men and women were created equal, but we were also created unique.